Nov. 26th, 2012 06:31 pm
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I am a parent. I sometimes think this should be more astonishing than it is; in general, it seems very normal and part of the flow of things, and I occasionally forget to mention it when I speak to an old friend, as if she has always been there, and it is everyone else that is new.

What is new is my tremendous lack of time. Again, it seems rather normal; I am also not worried as I know it will get easier. But I do find myself flailing rather like a wounded octopus every single time I have a few spare minutes; it is impossible to do laundry, write, clean the kitchen, catch up on email, write email, write a journal entry, make dinner, play video games, read, and spend time with family simultaneously, but I do sometimes attempt it. Occasionally I find myself literally panting with anxiety as I try to figure out what to do because I have a full ten minutes free. Time off is more unnerving, in some ways, than time not off.

Still: things are good. I just do wish I could back to a few unparentish thoughts, as I begin to wonder when I will ever have a little free time and brain for something besides diapers.

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Date: 2012-11-27 07:41 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] rinue
When I am terribly busy, I find it helpful to keep a running list of things I want to do - and this is the key part - broken up into groups of how long those things would take, and then organized so the most pressing things are at the top of each sub-list. Because when I have an unexpected free 15 minutes, the last thing I need is the stress of spending 10 minutes deciding what to do.

I am usually wrong about how long things take, though. It's usually longer than that. But it's a start.

I also forgive myself for just zoning out in front of the internet, as long as it's not EVERY time.

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Date: 2012-11-30 03:49 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] rinue
Ooooh, yeah - I need to pick up Thinner myself.

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Date: 2012-12-05 02:19 am (UTC)
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I have nothing to offer here but solidarity. Most of my solutions or work-arounds are so context dependent—I listen to Kindle text-to-speech while taking the boy on his daily walks into town; I can exercise in front of him because he finds it exciting and he is close to hand; certain spaces are safe for him for a few minutes, so I do what I can in those spaces.

Like I said earlier, though, as soon as I get used to a routine it changes, and I see no reason this shouldn't be true of all babies. Nothing stays the same, sadly, but on the upside, nothing stays the same.


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